Book Review: Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever - The Making of a Happy Woman by Judy Sheindlin

Most of us know Judy Sheinldlin as Judge Judy.

During the Paris Hilton debacle, Judy Sheindlin was a guest on Larry King and discussed some of the content of her best selling book, Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever - The Making of a Happy Woman.

I was so impressed by Judge Judy's message to women of all ages, the next day I went to our local bookstore to buy her book. I was floored when none of them had it in stock. I asked if it was because "the book" was such a hot seller it was flying off the shelves! Every book seller said the same thing - "We don't carry this book, but we can order it for you." "You have got to be kidding me!" I exclaimed in dismay.

Then I considered, because it's an older book (copyright 1999) people have already read it. Upon further investigation, I found the majority I spoke with had never heard of the book.

I ordered Judy's book from Amazon and within a couple of days I was engaged in its candor, superb writing style, wit and message.

If you are a woman of any age, I highly recommend reading it.

If you are a man and want to better understand the challenges women face, I suggest reading this book in its entirety. As a father, I needed to read it. As a husband, I needed to read it. As an employer, I needed to read it. As a person, I needed to read it.

I agree with almost everything Judy describes. Yes, "Dumb Is Forever" if a person doesn't take responsibility for his or her own education and life. "Beauty Fades" is where I had a problem. I DO KNOW what Judy means by "Beauty Fades" in the title. But what this does is reinforces the disturbing notion that only the younger women are beautiful. Her meaning of "Beauty Fades" is for young women such as Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears, Linsey Lohan and on and on. If these so called "Beautiful Young Women" fail to get it together, as they age, they will have very little if anything to contribute to society, friends, family and others. Right now they are young and beautiful. Later, when "Beauty Fades," there won't be anything left for these current icons to display. Their stories will most likely end with a tragic chapter.

Personally, I think her book would have made a bigger impact on the general public, especially women, if the title was simply, "The Making of a Happy Woman."

With this in mind, I can confidently say, Judge Judy has written one of the most important books in modern history.

One of the most successful and current bestselling books is "The Secret." I love reading, The Secret. It feels good. Its main message is, "The Law of Attraction." In other words, "We reap what we sow." I must tell you, however, "The Secret" is soft reading material compared to the reality of timeless principles contained in Judge Judy's book. We learn, Happiness is a choice. Happiness takes work. Happiness is being responsible for our own happiness. Happiness takes self-discipline. And believe it or not, Happiness is about taking risks. It's much easier to blame circumstances or others for our unhappiness than make the decision work at learning and living the principles of happiness. I'm guilty of it too!

At some point, reality hits all of us. It's no secret. For our current debacle icons, reality is hitting hard. They are attracting exactly what and/or who they are and what and/or who they surround themselves. "The Secret" is correct. It's the law of attraction. The sad reality? These icons don't know how to get out of the mess they are currently in. It's hard to believe, but nevertheless, it's true.

The good news is, EVERYTHING WE NEED IS WITHIN REACH. Will someone please inform Ms. Hilton and Brittany of this.

Just in case they can't read, it comes on audio book as well.

You will most likely have to order this book on-line.

Dorlon Peckham
Genesis Salon
250 Crummer Lane
Reno, NV 89502
775-828-9797

Why Bumble and bumble?

"Bumble and bumble products are about choice and attitude. Select products and wear them as your mood shifts from day to day, outfit to outfit, event to event, or season to season.

Rather than feeling that you have to pile wax on top of creme on top of spray, as editorial stylists do out of necessity, get to know each product individually first. Though you’ll naturally gravitate to several favorites, be adventurous.

Some people go for gritty, matte textures and choose Surf Spray or Sumotech. Others prefer more polished finishes and reach for Brilliantine, Sumowax or Shine. Minimalists and naturalists swear by Leave In Conditioner, Prep or Tonic, or a hint of Grooming Creme. Leading ladies make it big with Thickening Spray, Does It All or Classic Hairspray. The naturally curly spring for Curl Conscious products.

Whatever you do, seek stylists’ advice (if you haven’t already). Besides recommending the right shampoo and conditioner, they cut hair with products in mind, use them while cutting, and can teach you when and how to use them. A versatile cut can be worn several ways and products are key to changing it.

Regardless of your preference, we’re sure you’ll find something to love and, like hairdressers worldwide, come to depend on. Welcome to the Bb. family."

Dorlon's Recommendations:

What is a great haircut? A beginning... and only a beginning. It's what someone is able to do with a great haircut that makes it fun, sexy, practical or outrageous! This is where Bumble and bumble comes in - using the right products, with a great haircut, and "working it" with the right product(s) based on your wants, needs, desires and mood.

You should be able to achieve at least three different looks from one haircut. Oftentimes a client won't know how to change her hair style because her stylist never taught her how. Why is this? I have a theory. Stylists feel like they're "selling." In truth, no one buys anything she doesn't want - a stylist makes the assumption a client can't afford it, or is simply too busy talking about him or herself. In my opinion, these are some of the greatest injustices (to a client) in the salon business.

Beautiful hair starts with the right shampoo and conditioner.

Find a statement below that best describes your hair. My recommendations follow.

NOTE: Chemically Treated means: (color, highlights, bleach, perms or chemically straightened hair)

1. My hair is chemically treated. Use Gentle Shampoo, Super Rich Conditioner (and Deeep once a week).

2. My hair is fine and/or thin and chemically treated. Use Thickening Shampoo and Conditioner.

3. My hair is "trashed" from over processing - too much of everything. Use Damage Therapy regimen: 1, 2, 3 and 4.

4. My hair is dry and frizzy. Use Alojoba Shampoo and Conditioner.

5. My hair is fine, but dry and frizzy? Use Creme de Coco Shampoo and Conditioner.

6. My hair is too curly, dry and frizzy. Use Curl Conscious Shampoo, Conditioner and Curl Cream/Medium to Thick

7. My hair has curl, but the curl is weak and I'd like more curl. Use Curl Conscious Shampoo, Conditioner and Curl Cream/Fine to Medium

8. My hair is long, dry and frizzy. Use Dehydration Therapy regimen: 1, 2, 3, and 4.

9. My hair is fine and thinning. Use Density Therapy regimen: 1, 2 and 3.

10. My scalp gets irritated and/or flakes. Use Scalp Rebalancing Therapy regimen: 1, 2 and 3.

11. My hair is in good condition and/or I just want to alternate my shampoo and conditioner. Use Seaweed Shampoo and Conditioner.

12. I want to buy my husband, boyfriend and/or "boy toy" a shampoo and conditioner. Buy him Tonic Shampoo and Tonic Lotion. Guys love it. It's simple, smells great and feels good on the scalp.

13. I want deep cleaning once-in-a-while. Use Sunday Shampoo - just once-a-week. If your haircolor is volatile, use Seaweed Shampoo and Conditioner once-a-week instead.

14. I want a super-light conditioner. Use Leave-In (Rinse Out) Conditioner. Or simply use Prep or Tonic Lotion after shampooing.

15. My color fades. Use one of the five Color Support Shampoos and Conditioners. You must use the Shampoo and Conditioner together. The Color Support Shampoo prepares the hair for the Color Support Conditioner.
They come in:
Cool Blonde - fights brassy, gold tones - keeps platinum blondes platinum.
Golden Blonde - keeps golden tones vibrant in blonde hair.
True Red - keeps red hair red.
Cool Brunette - cuts red tones on brunettes.
Warm Brunette - keeps rich browns rich.

So your hair is now clean and conditioned properly. What's next?

Prep or Tonic Lotion. These are two sophisticated products that make a big difference. Water has a pH of 7. Hair has a pH of 4.5. Prep and/or Tonic Lotion helps normalize the pH of your hair by returning its pH to its natural acidic state. This closes the cuticle (outer-most part of the hair). Also, Prep or Tonic Lotion feeds the hair with vitamins - Tonic Lotion contains Tea Tree Oil - Prep does not. Tonic Lotion gives the hair more slip - Prep gives the hair more grip. If you like smoother hair, use Tonic Lotion. If you're going for more volume and texture, use Prep.

Americans generally shampoo and condition everyday. Sometimes twice a day. Instead of so much shampooing and conditioning, try reinventing your style the next day with just Prep or Tonic Lotion. Sometimes second or third day hair looks better. Experiment to find what works best for you.

Now to create a base to work from - Bumble calls it "Shape and Structure."

Styling Lotion - light hold, soothing to the hair, soft and natural.

Thickening Spray - medium hold, great with heat tools like curiing irons, straightening irons, brushes and rollers.

Styling Cream - for maximum support - great on hair that lacks body.

What about the next level of Bumble Styling?

Oils - if your hair is dry and lacks moisture, use one of the following:

Brilliantine
Grooming Cream
Styling Balm

Silicones - if you're looking for smooth, shiny hair, use one of the following:

Defrizz
Straight
Shine
Finishing Balm

NOTE: I find Silicones work better after the hair has been blow-dried. The purpose of silicones is to create a barrier between your hair and the elements, like humidity. If you straighten your hair for example, and it reverts back to fizzy or curl, silicone will stop this.

Waxes:

Styling Wax - light wax for texture
Sumo Wax - strong wax for texture, hold and shine
Sumo Tech - a water soluble paste - adds body and texture

Sprays:

Classic Hairspray - Aerosol, medium hold
Does It All - Aerosol, light hold - use when styling and curling or straight ironing
Holding Spray - Pump spray - adds medium hold and texture
Extra Strength Holding Spray - strong hold - added texture

Specialty Products:

Surf Spray - Adds lots of body and texture with a matte finish - if you have a darker hair color, apply a dab of Grooming Creme first.

Hair Powders - Dry shampoo in an aerosol form in five colors - great for hiding the grey roots when you don't have time to color. Also, adds lots of body to fine hair.

Please stop by Genesis and we'll give you a Bumble Product Book for more detail on the products and what they can do for you!

Genesis Salon & Medical Spa
250 Crummer Lane
Reno, NV 89502
775-828-9797
www.genesissalon.com

Have fun finding all the incredible looks possible with Bumble and bumble.

Dorlon Peckham
Hair Designer

RACHEL - COLOR CODING A HAIR DESIGN

RACHEL is a wife, mother of two beautiful children and a professional business woman.





In regard to Rachel's hair style, she wants something fun and sexy for the evenings and weekends, a professional look for work, and something easy for her many roles.

COLOR CODING provides extraordinary options for today's multifaceted woman. The concept of COLOR CODING is to tie-in the hair color with the haircut. The result? A look that compliments her individualized sense of style.

We start by identifying COLORS that harmonize with and energize Rachel's skin tone, eye color and natural texture. The color swatch on the left drains Rachel while the color swatch on the right harmonizes with her natural coloration.










Rachel looks best in deep, rich, warm tones.

With this in mind, I begin designing shapes within the haircut that can later be accented with color.











COLOR CODING Rachel's haircut means applying the color in conjunction with how her hair has been cut. This adds another dimension to her hair and will make styling quick and easy.











Genesis make-up artist, Julie Vargas, puts on Rachel's finishing touches.



With a little Bumble and bumble Styling Wax, Rachel's new COLOR CODED hair design goes right into shape.











BEFORE













AFTER





















"WE LOVE IT CAUSE MOM GETS READY QUICKER!"


A special thanks to Aimee and Tiffiny for taking the photos.
A special thanks to Julie Vargas for make-up design.
A special thanks to Rachel for be an incredibel model.
A special thanks to Rachel's family for being so cool!

Dorlon Peckham
Genesis Salon
250 Crummer Lane
Reno, NV 89502
775-828-9797

Salon Etiquette 101

You, Your Stylist, and Your Salon
For a woman, the relationship with her hair stylist is an important one. Why is this? If a woman's hair is cut with little or no regard for her hair type, face shape, body type, style personality, lifestyle, profession and/or overall image, it can significantly affect the outcome. If the hair color is wrong, it can make things worse. No amount of make-up or expensive clothes is going to correct bad hair color. It can have a psychological effect on just about every aspect of her life - private/personal/professional.

Have you ever had things "go south" with your hairdresser? We all have. You can have a great stylist and still have a "bad hair day." Get out the baseball cap and try to get through it. But, when "bad hair days" happen time-and-time again, maybe it's time to move on.

Any good hairdresser knows the responsibility she or he has with a client. If the hairdresser doesn't, perhaps a new career choice is in order.

For years I've worked successfully with thousands of women (but sometimes unsuccessfully) when it came to providing what she wanted, needed and expected regarding her hair and her overall image. The mishaps that occurred were usually due to an off day on my part, an off day on the client's part, or a lack of communication.

The purpose of this post is to address ways to successfully build a fruitful, long-term relationship with your stylist(s). Notice the plural on stylist - it's not a typo. Yes, you should have an alternative stylist (or two) in case of an emergency.

Also, I would like to help you relax about going into your salon. I've found common misconceptions among clients in regard to who they should see, what they should say, or not say. Remember, you are the customer.

Some common chatter among unenlightened stylists may sound something like this: "She is my client." This is FALSE! You are not his or her client, he or she is your stylist (period). You can go to whomever you want, whenever you want, and if someone has a problem with it, let the problem be theirs, not yours.

Here are some suggestions that may help you:

Finding a new stylist when you are new to an area
Go shopping - malls and supermarkets are a great place to observe women whose hair is similar to what you like. Don't be shy about asking her for a recommendation. Say this. "I was noticing how great your hair looks. I'm new to the area and I'm looking for a stylist. Do you know of anyone?" Everyone loves a compliment. She will most likely have her stylist's card with her, but if she doesn't, have a pen and paper handy.

Book a consultation first
Meeting your new stylist without the commitment of a color or cut gives you the opportunity to see if there is any chemistry between the two of you. Also, arrive a few minutes early so you can get a sense of the energy within the salon. Bad energy usually breeds contempt! This can be an indicator of what's to come.

Take a few pictures of styles you like
"A picture speaks a thousand words." When discussing a style with your stylist, pictures cut through a lot of dialogue and misunderstanding. Use the picture as a "reference" not a "written in stone" look. You are not the person in the photo. Your hair and face-shape may be different. But, remember the word "reference." This word is powerful when trying to explain what you want. NOTE: Take a few pictures not a photo album. Too many could confuse the issue.

Keep your eyes and ears open
When you are sitting in one stylist's chair, be observant. Your alternative stylist(s) may be sitting a chair or two away. Get to know her or him. From the beginning make it known to your stylist you would like to have the option to book with someone else in case of an emergency. You never know when someone is going to leave the salon or be sick when you need them most.

Your time with your stylist should be, your time. You should feel 100% comfortable in the environment. I like to call it, "The Experience." Hopefully it's a good one!

Interviewing women that have left their stylists are a result of inconsistency, a stylist talking over their heads (using salon lingo that a client doesn't understand), stylists talking about themselves too much, or assuming that a long-time client doesn't want change.

To reiterate one last time, YOU are the customer. If you don't want to talk during the appointment, inform your stylist. If your stylist is a "chatter box" and you just want some down time, tell her or him. This is completely acceptable.

Please feel free to ask or comment on anything. This information is for your benefit.

Sincerely,

Dorlon Peckham
Genesis Salon & Medical Spa
250 Crummer Lane
Reno, NV 89502
775-828-9797
www.genesissalon.com